What does being cool mean?
Sure, logically, a guy who is good looking and excels at sport may seem to be the kind of guy who gets all the girls, but it’s not so. This is because attracting women is not logical, it’s all about the emotions. Make a woman feel right and she’s all yours. Stuff it up and, well you know what happens then. It’s all about becoming coolest guy in the world.
So if being cool is a key ingredient to attracting women, how does one “become” cool? I have done a bit of thinking about this, so I hope I can distill it down for you. To work out what cool guys had in common, I thought back to some of the cool guys I have known over the years.
And it wasn’t easy finding these commonalities. Some of the guys I knew were really loud and outgoing, while others were more reserved. So your level of extrovertness isn’t necessarily a factor. More important is being coolest guy on the planet.
Humor isn’t necessarily a factor either. I knew some really funny cool guys, but others weren’t all that funny at all. So scratch that off the list as well.
What I did discover was that they all seemed to have a lack of insecurities. They just didn’t care what other people thought or said about them. I guess you could call a lack of insecurities high self esteem, but whatever you call it, I think that is the key to being cool.
So if that’s what the definition of coolness, how do you set about becoming the coolest guy on the planet, if you are the biggest dweeb on the planet? Well, I think the key there lies in the definition. If being cool means having no insecurities, then you need to find a way to get rid of these insecurities.
Whether it’s a matter of getting into shape, or learning how to dress well or whatever, you need to first work out what’s holding you back, then figure out a way to address the insecurity.
Once you have done this successfully, you will most certainly be on the road to coolness.
