Getting Over An Office Romance
Getting Over the Pain of an Office Romance
A botched romance is always a devastating experience for women and crushing if you have been dating a co-worker openly. When he abruptly dumps you for reasons you cannot fathom, you will never know where to look - at the ceiling or at the floor? The problem could have been managed differently and discreetly if the affair was with someone not connected with the office, but what can you do to survive the day-by-day encounters with your ex?
You cannot crack his head with one of your desk clocks, or erase his computer files just to retaliate. Though revenge is sweet, do not stoop to this level. Doing so would erode your professional image and destroy chances for a promotion.
These useful pointers from survivors are sensible solutions to your predicament:
* Act as if you are okay. Continue to be your usual cheerful self and focus on your work, never mind if there are raised eyebrows because your ex is chasing another girl at the water cooler.
* Surreptitiously erase his picturefrom the digital frames of your atomic clocks at home and in the office. There is no reason to do this with fanfare. Replace it with your cat’s image to make you feel better.
* Be a professional. Don’t talk to him unless it is work-related; when you do, call him by his name preceded with a Mister, but smile to show the world you are not wretchedness.
* Do not quit your job no matter how much you want to get away. The backstabbers will have their fun if you do. But if the new job has a bigger pay and a wonderful (read far away) location, grab it. Announce the reasons later to nip in the bud nasty speculations.
* Keep mum. Do not demean yourself by blabbing. You do not have to give a blow-by-blow detail of your break-up to the girl in the next cubicle.
* Keep yourself occupied and stay away from the water cooler until things die down, but be active in office activities and socials.
* Don’t expect you can forget him in a month. Sometimes it takes a year to heal emotionally. Fortunately, the pain just vanishes and you will be your usual self again, so why waste more tears?
* Avoid him but do not be too obvious about it; doing so would start a conflagration of speculations.
* RemoveGet rid of the desk accessories he gave you plus that widget from his nautical table clocks collection.
* Staying cool in spite of your inner turmoil can improve your image because the boss sees he can rely on your performance even in traumatic situations. This is a plus if you’re aspiring for a promotion.
Certainly keeping your dignity has its rewards. After all, there is still a likelihood of a better relationship - but avoid office romance. After the shame and the fury, would you have another office romance?
